the african Girl child

Why is that as an african girl from the earliest onset we are thought that ohhh  everything we do has  to be so that you can get a husband   why dont we say learn how to cook so that you can feed your self instead of  learn how to cook so that you can find a good husband  why is finding a husband seen  as the biggest achievement for us  is it that we as girl children are not good enough that we  need to attain  that  great  achievement  of finding a husband to be considered good .

what is stopping me from being the best version of me